Top 10 Things Never to Say to a Pregnant Woman

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Pregnancy is a tough time as it is and pregnant women will not appreciate being asked silly questions. If you have been pregnant, you will agree. If your friend is pregnant, the least you could do for her is lend a helping hand when needed and to be with her so that she doesn’t feel lonely as she puts up with morning sickness, pain, constipation, constant urination, weight gain, and so on. Find out the ten things that you should definitely avoid saying to a pregnant woman. Claim Your 20 Free Pregnancy Tests – Click Here

Because what a pregnant woman needs is a ‘friend’ in the real sense and not someone who will irritate her and make her feel worse by asking useless and seemingly nonsensical questions or saying the stupidest things ever.

Are you having twins?

Don’t look at how much weight your friend has gained and speculate that she might be having twins. Asking her something like that suggests that you mean that she has put on too much weight and of course, that is what you mean. Don’t think you hid your thoughts well in your question because you didn’t. Pregnant women are usually very sensitive when it comes to weight gain during pregnancy. Don’t make her feel worse by asking her something like that or insinuating that she has gained too much weight.

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In Vitro Fertilization?

Why do you care whether it is an IVF or not? If she tells you that she is indeed having twins, don’t go asking if she went through IVF. Remember that IVF is not the ONLY way to have twins or multiples. Even normal pregnancies lead to twin births and multiple births. Of course you know that. Don’t forget that when you are with your pregnant friend. IVF is relatively new and twin births go back to centuries, don’t they? A woman who has struggled with infertility may feel sensitive that she had to resort to IVF and may feel a bit of a failing not having fallen pregnant the natural way.

Are you disappointed it is not a girl/boy?

Many people think that just because the first one was a boy or a girl, parents would want a girl or boy in the subsequent delivery. Did you know that not many even care about the sex of the baby? They are just more than happy to have a normal birth and a healthy baby, regardless of whether they already have a boy or a girl. Voicing such thoughts are just foolhardy.

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You look wide, must be a girl

Unless you are her doctor and you have seen her files, don’t jump to conclusions about the sex of her baby. Whether she looks wide or not, there is absolutely no way to find out the sex of the baby merely through physical appearance. Bear that in mind.

I started wearing skinny jeans a week after delivery.

As aforementioned, if you want to be with the pregnant lady, be supportive or mind your own business. Don’t start comparing and make her feel worse. Every woman is different and what worked out for you will not necessarily work out for her. Every woman loses her pregnancy weight at their own rate, and return to their pre-pregnancy weight (or not) in their own time. No two woman are made alike.

 

I hope your child gets your eyes…

This is the favorite dialogue of in-laws and parents. Why fuss about the appearance of the baby so much? Whether she has the same nose or not, the parents will adore her and love her. Don’t go hoping for physical appearances, thus.

I didn’t know you wanted children.

The fact that she is pregnant insinuates very, very clearly that she wanted children. Don’t state the obvious.

Who is the father of the baby?

If she is not married and has gotten pregnant, this is a common question. Again, why do you care who the father is? It may be anybody and that is not your business. She will tell you if she wants to all by herself. You don’t need to prod her.

Which birth control method were you using?

Don’t ask her this unless you are the unexpected father.

How long do you plan on taking off work?

Really, she does not know and don’t trouble her with such questions. Currently she is struggling to get past morning sickness and constant urination. She will decide when the time comes.

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Dr. Renee Hanton, MD
Dr. Renee Hanton, MD | ConceiveEasy
Dr. Renee Hanton is ConceiveEasy's Senior Physician with expertise in the diagnosis and treatment of infertility. Dr. Hanton specializes in the endocrine causes of infertility, such as polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS).