After struggling with infertility, it can be tricky to figure if or when to tell others that you are finally pregnant! Of course, you are excited and happy, and it is only natural to want to share this good news with others. However, especially if you have been struggling with infertility for a long time, or have had multiple miscarriages in the past, it might be difficult for you to announce the news to everyone you know. Today we are going to cover some tips and advice for you on making a pregnancy announcement after infertility. Claim Your 20 Free Pregnancy Tests – Click Here
This one is rather obvious, but we thought it should be mentioned here anyway. Up to 25% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. It can be very, very difficult for a woman to have to tell all of her family, friends and colleagues that she has lost the baby after telling them that she is pregnant. Even worse, people that you forget to tell that you lost the baby may ask about it for a long time after the miscarriage, and that can inadvertently cause even more pain.
Some women, especially after long periods of infertility or loss, never get to the point where they feel like their pregnancy is “safe”. Some women feel that they could lose the baby all the way through the pregnancy and they never feel safe telling others the news. Some women prefer to never disclose the fact that they are pregnant, and only let other people ask about it when it becomes too obvious to ignore.
Some women even feel guilty when they become pregnant, when they know so many other people who are struggling with infertility and loss. There is nothing wrong with not sharing your pregnancy news, especially if your family and friends know that you have struggled in the past.
Sometimes a couple are just too excited after years of infertility to keep it inside and can’t wait to make a pregnancy announcement. Even if they know that the pregnancy could end badly, especially during the first few months, some couples shout their news from the rooftops anyway. Some women think that even if they do lose the baby or suffer a miscarriage, that they should have the support of those people who care about them. How would they get support and comfort from others if they didn’t even know they were pregnant in the first place? Some women do not want to stifle their joy that they have waited so long to experience, and that is fine too. Some women know that even if they do not carry the baby to term, they will be able to heal and grieve with others who know about their loss. Others do not want to hear people talking and guessing behind their backs, so they tell as soon as they find out.
Whether you decide to tell, or not to tell, or just wait to tell, there is no right or wrong answer. You have to decide what is right for you and your partner. Don’t do anything that you don’t want to do, or that doesn’t feel right.
Make your own choice. Tell everyone. Tell no one. Tell a few close friends or relatives. Whatever works best for you, there is no right or wrong choice. Announcing a pregnancy after infertility is solely at the discretion of the couple having the baby, and no one can make that choice for you.