If this was ten or twenty years ago, having only one child would be pretty much unheard of. As long as time can tell, couples have always seemed to focus on “more is better” when it comes to having babies, and there was a time when it wasn’t unheard of to have nine or ten or even more siblings. However, right now, the single child household is the fastest growing family unit in the United States. Families with only one child now outnumber the families with two children. So, what does this mean? Is it possible that one is enough? How do you know what is right for your family? Claim Your 20 Free Pregnancy Tests – Click Here
The chances are, if you are planning on only having one child, or if you are simply not sure yet if you want more than one, you will be bombarded with plenty of reasons why you should have another. It’s selfish, people say. Children NEED to grow up with a sibling. Kids without siblings are bored, lonely, sad. Kids without siblings are spoiled, bossy, bratty. The list goes on and on. It seems like complete strangers feel okay asking “when are you having another?”, and will try to even talk you into having more than one child. However, no one should feel pressured to have more than one child if that is not what they think they should do.
Kids with siblings do learn how to get along with others early on, since they have someone with them nonstop. (However they do also learn how to fight with each other early on, too!) Many families like to have more than one child so that their kids have someone to “grow up with”,and a friend for life when they are older (or at least that is what parents hope for!). Some parents were raised without siblings, and want a different life for their kids. Other couples just have a plan of having a big family from the start, and decide that they want more than one kid. There is no right or wrong, only what works for each individual family.
As time goes on, more and more families are deciding that one is the perfect number for them. There has been extensive research done that indicates that children who have no siblings are just as happy, successful and well adjusted as children with one or more siblings. Parents with only one child often feel less stressed, and often have more time to dedicate to their child than parents who have to divide their time up between children. There is also no denying that it is cheaper to raise one child than multiple children, and even raising one child is not cheap! Many studies have actually shown that the more children you add to a family, the more stress on not only the mother, but the parental relationship as a whole.
The bottom line is that there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to how many children a couple should have. It is your business, and no one else’s. Don’t ever let anyone try to make you feel guilty or change your mind for your decision, whatever that decision may be. There are many pros and cons on both sides of the fence on this one, and only you can particularly decide what is right for your family.