Can I Pick My Baby’s Gender?

Can I Pick My Baby's Gender?

What the old wives’ tales say

We’ve all heard those old wives’ tales about the ways that you can influence the gender of your child by doing everything from eating certain foods during the pregnancy to having sex at certain times during the month. Of course in recent years medical science has come a long way in helping us to understand how the reproductive process works and what influences the selection of a gender for a baby. Claim Your 20 Free Pregnancy Tests – Click Here

Picking the gender of your baby has been a popular topic for couples trying to conceive for as long as humans have reproduced. The question of if it is really possible is something that many couples ask and the truth is yes, but with a few stipulations. The way gender is decided is through sperm as each sperm has a specific gender attached to it. If you selectively try to encourage or weed out sperm for a certain gender you can effectively pick the gender of your baby.


The only two ways to guarantee a certain gender when trying for a baby is through in vitro fertilization (IVF) or intrauterine Insemination (IUI). The procedures allow medical professionals to implant fertilized eggs into the uterus to then grow and develop into a beautiful baby boy or girl.

Before the implantation happens, the fertilization of the egg takes place in a medical facility that introduces the sperm to the egg outside of the body. If you desire, medical professionals can weed out sperm so only a specific gender of sperm is left that can then fertilize the egg.

As many couples know, IVF and IUI are fairly expensive as they can take multiple tries to be successful and by adding specific gender parameters to the fertilization process that cost rises as it is oftentimes an extra service provided by the fertility specialist. This option can ensure a specific gender for your baby, but the costs of this process may not be available to everyone.

Less costly options

If you can’t afford costly IVT and IUI procedures there some options available to you, but they are not fool proof or even proven effective. However, if you are set on a certain gender these options may be something to consider.

How to influence a boy

Sperm that effectively makes the baby a boy are far more mobile than those that produce male babies, reaching the egg faster than “girl” sperm, but dying off much quicker than “girl” sperm. To help influence a male gendered baby try to have sex as close to ovulation as possible so that “boy” sperm can quickly get to the egg when it is available for fertilization.

How to influence a girl

“Girl” sperm tend to be slower and live longer in the reproductive tract of a woman’s body, if you want a girl your best option is to have sex 3-4 days before ovulation and not have sex any sooner (even on the day of ovulation). This will allow the “boy” sperm to die off and leave only “girl” sperm left alive to travel to the matured egg and fertilize it.

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Alyssia Granger
Alyssia Granger | ConceiveEasy
Alyssia is mom to 2 giggley twin girls, Sophia and Emma, and son Hunter. She's a Southern girl, passionate about photography, travel and her husband Josh.